Men Communicating

“Most men have a hard time communicating anything that remotely resembles an emotion. Why? Because emotions are scary to men, who think much more than they feel, and much of the time, many men don’t even know what or how they are feeling. It is interesting to note that women think and feel at the same time, while men can only think or feel. And based on most men’s reluctance to embrace their feminine side, it’s no wonder they do their level best to stay in their heads. So, when a woman wants to talk, and the guy realizes he has to think and feel at the same time, just the idea becomes a challenge. So, it’s easy to understand why men have a harder time talking about feelings, it’s because they have to switch gears from their head to their hearts.” (Goldsmith, 2010)  Dr. Goldsmith goes on to say, “Sometimes when they have to do it very quickly, they may feel like the life is being sucked out of them. Most of the time, when a man wants to talk, he’s thinking, ‘What do you want to do this weekend?’ When a woman says, ‘Let’s talk’ guys go to this place in their heads where they start to think, ‘Oh my God, what did I do now?’ Many men feel like their relationship is being threatened just because the woman in their lives wants to talk with them.” Men tend to fight having to show emotions and actually become defensive or try to retreat if forced to let their fortifications down. For the most part men like all conversation short, to the point and not complicated. Women display their emotions in almost every aspect of their lives. Men have to understand and accept this difference and make every effort to communication even if it is difficult. 1 Peter 3:7 reminds us men that, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”